Online Therapy 10 Tips. Getting the best from SKYPE counselling and Therapy.

Using SKYPE or other related online counselling platforms.

Ten Tips to get the best from online counselling.

  1. When having your online counselling session close other internet using programs, you may not be using them, but they will be using some of your available internet resources, this can cause the connection to be problematic. For example, browsers, other online communication tools and cloud backup can slow your system down. Other devices connected to your internet will also slow things down.
  2. Get the lighting right! You need to be seen and by having good lighting this can make all the difference.
  3. Interruptions … Put the do not disturb sign on the door, put your mobile out of reach and on silent, switch off anything that alerts you to messages on your screen… this is your time, you need to remove the possibility of distraction… including the cat!
  4. What’s the picture like, you should be at least head and shoulders in the picture, and siting comfortably, think passport photo.
  5. It’s often a good idea to wear headphones, it reduces echo and enables an extra level of confidentiality for you. Having the headphones on, I feel, can really bring you into the session.
  6. Can you be overheard, because if you can, or even wonder if you can be, that won’t work. you need to know that your session is confidential.
  7. Have a backup! If all else fails (technically) you and your therapist should have a plan. the one I have with clients is I will call them on their landline or mobile.
  8. Research and know the level of confidentiality offered by the technology you are using, and make sure you are happy with it. Google will help you find this information and the technology provider’s privacy statement.
  9. When people come to face 2 face therapy they often have a bit of time to process the session, this can be the journey home or to work, when they do their session online at home or work, they often go straight back into their day. Try and have a bit of a break between your session and being pulled back into your day.
  10. If you are concerned about any aspect of your online counselling, including the medium you are using, talk with your therapist, share your concerns.

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Andrew Harvey offers online counselling and therapy worldwide.

online counselling therapist Andrew Harvey

Anxiety is top of the list for people seeking counselling and therapy

What are people bringing to counselling?

People come to counselling for all sorts of reasons, from help with a mental health issue to wanting time and space to explore life options. Below is a list of the most searched terms that people use when looking for counselling and therapy help, the ones I have included are all related to the work that I do. What is of note is the amount of diagnostic labels and terms that people use in their searches, this might reflect an increased awareness of metal health conditions or that more people are searching for help from the private sector for these challenges.  Anxiety consistently comes up in the therapy room and in list of what people search, addiction appears to be on the rise in searches as dose personality disorders.  Many people come to therapy without words or a label for what is wrong and that can be part of the therapy process, to help the person discover what is wrong and understand it, it is then that changes can happen.

Anxiety continues to be the most searched term on  Counselling Directories.

relationship issues

generalised anxiety disorder


bipolar disorder/manic depression

panic disorder

seasonal affective disorder (sad)


family issues

addiction(s) I have a website dedicated to this type of counselling and therapy here

affairs and betrayals

separation and divorce


anger management


low self-esteem

emotional abuse


sexual abuse

personality disorders

sex addiction


low self-confidence

drug abuse

internet addiction

borderline personality disorder


domestic violence



carer support

narcissistic personality disorder

post-traumatic stress disorder (ptsd)

work related stress

suicidal thoughts

avoidant personality disorder



obsessive-compulsive personality disorder

paranoid personality disorder

dependent personality disorder

antisocial personality disorder

histrionic personality disorder

schizoid personality disorder

passive aggressive behavior


mental health

For help with any of these issues and other emotional difficulties please do make contact


News from Counselling Services Nottingham

Counselling Services Nottingham News …..quick news update

SKYPE Counselling, New Logo and I’m always learning! 

Skype Counselling and Therapy 

As a service I have always wanted to be as flexible and open to new ideas and ways of delivering services as possible. I embraced online therapy soon on in my counselling days and have been using SKYPE (and other similar services) for some time. I am now working with clients on SKYPE on a regular basis including international clients as far away as Bangladesh and online therapy sessions make up around 20% of my clinical hours.

New Logo

Counselling Services Nottingham are pleased and proud to publish our new logo, business card and art work designed and printed locally here in Nottingham.

………… Here it is !

Counselling Services Nottingham New Logo


and here is our business card (well the artwork for it)

Counselling services Nottingham new business card


I’m always learning

I made reference  to “i’m always learning” above. I am this month doing lots of learning, as we progress in our understanding of what can be helpful to people new training and research becomes available, I am extremely lucky that it’s a passion of mine, certainty not a chore. Yesterday I attended a day’s training with psychologists, therapists and doctors in London and next week I have a few days CBT training planned in Birmingham.  I did a quick count up and my “Continued Professional Development” hours this month currently stand at approximately 40 hours and will be in the region of 70 by the end of the month! … that’s formal training , reading or online study and doesn’t include the hours I spend learning from the best teachers of all… my clients.


A Book Recommendation

Can a book offer therapy for Anxiety ?

I recently had the opportunity to take a holiday, and took time to revisit a book that I really enjoyed “Mindfulness – Be Mindful…. Live in the moment” by Gill Hanson. The book itself, I feel, offers in itself some therapy for anxiety, offering suffers possibly a new and deeper  understanding of anxiety and worry, this deeper understanding can often help people become less anxious.


The book : “Mindfulness – Be Mindful.. Live in the moment” by Gill Hanson.

I experience  so often clients  feelings of depression  are in the past, and anxiety often has a future focus , the present, when approached mindfully, can  often offer a place of serenity and peace. The present moment actually becomes a present indeed.

Anyone whom takes a interest in counselling, psychology and therapy will be aware of the growing talk of Mindfulness, many therapies increasingly  engage with and incorporate concepts of mindfulness.  Clients report to me the benefits of mindfulness practice and I myself both formally and informally incorporate it both into my counselling practice and life. I often recommend mindfulness and discuss with clients how they might approach it, I often find clients whom are seeking help and therapy for anxiety benefit from it.

This book I feel is one of the best books I have read on the subject, offering both practical experiences and some theoretical depth. Interestingly its a fun read also !  I enjoyed it more this time around than the first time I read it , maybe I was more “present” this time !

If you find the book of interest, and want to learn more, a number of therapist offer mindfulness courses and I am happy to recommend one or two. I have also found some wonderful free podcasts and online courses.

Conditions of Worth, Incongruence and the Aging Rock Star

Conditions of Worth, Incongruence and the Aging Rock Star


I went to see a film last night and I was so struck by how, for me, it really illustrated Carl Rogers theory that informs much of my work. The film Danny Collins charts Danny’s sometimes painful journey from incongruence to congruence (terms used to describe one’s drift from true self (congruence) to who we become to fit with others’ expectations (incongruence)). Or in terms of the film, literally dancing and singing to someone else’s tune and the growing awareness of the discomfort of this, and how this discomfort caused Danny to look inside to discover his own calling, his own truth and his own way of being. I am not sure if my take on the film is anything like anyone else’s, or in line with the intent of those who created the film, but for me, it really did express and illuminate Rogers theory.

One aspect of the film that struck me was just how much courage it can take to live one’s own truth, especially when others place so much importance upon the aspects of a person that do not in fact fit with their true selves; in this case the desire of Danny’s fans for him to sing his hit records and “play” the role they so desire. I was also struck by the way that Danny became his truer self in the context of relationship: another key aspect of the work I do being the therapeutic relationship as a major part of the therapeutic process.

The film ended at a place that I didn’t want it to end, and this reminds me of the journey from our truth to our becoming what’s expected of us, to the discomfort of this, to the journey back to truth; a journey that is the thing in itself: it’s not the end that counts, it’s the getting there, and maybe the film might never have been able to conclude neatly, as I am not sure it would have respected its authenticity.

What an uplifting experience it was to see this film and it has for me, reaffirmed my respect for those that enter into therapy to seek their truth, to face their fears and to do their best to dance to their own tune. It has also reminded me of the simplicity and truth to be found in the work of Carl Rogers and the therapists who carry on doing as he did and witness the growth of people as they rediscover who they truly are.

I hope I haven’t spoiled the film for anyone, and have on purpose left out a number of other parts of the film, I would be interested in others’ take on the film; do feel free to email me.

Links to information that may be of interest in relation to the above.

Carl Rodgers        Carl Rodgers Theory        The Film Danny Collins

Andrew Harvey

Andrew is a therapist and counsellor in Nottinghamshire working both in private practice and for Priory Group.